Domestic Violence Basics

DV 101 SlideshowAre you being Abused?Are you an Abuser?

Are you being abusive?

 

 

Does the person you love:

 

• Are you extremely jealous of your partner? Are you possessive, jealous of other people in their life, or do you want them only to be with you?
• Do you criticize your partner and put him/her down for not being the “perfect” husband/wife?
• Do you have an explosive temper and get easily angry over little things?
• Do you blame your partner for your problems and feelings?
• Have you broken things, thrown things, hit, slapped, shoved, punched, kicked or threatened your partner?
• Do you feel threatened when your partner doesn’t agree to do what you want him/her to do, and feel that you have to force them to do your will?
• Do you control your partner’s decisions, behavior, or social life?
• Do you decide where they can go, who they can be with, what they can wear?
• Are you insecure about yourself? About your relationship?
• Do you believe that you have to be in control all the time?
• Do you drink heavily and/or use drugs?
• Did you experience violence in your family?
• Do you order your partner around?
• Do you expect him/her to read your mind, and then get mad when they don’t?

 

If you recognize any of the above signs, you are being abusive to your partner. Don’t ignore it-- the problem will only get worse. It could lead to your being arrested and sent to jail, and will destroy your relationship unless you are willing to take steps to change.

 

 

Resources for batterers in Santa Clara County:

 

*certified programs

 

Family Violence Counseling Associates

(408) 246-1507

16-week voluntary programs

 

Turning Point Counseling & Educational Services*

(408) 739-2171

English/Spanish

 

Proyecto Primavera*

(408) 278-9031

English/Spanish/Vietnamese

 

Center for Human Development*

(408) 984-7293

Cantonese/English/Hearing Impaired/Gay men

 

Domestic Violence Counseling & Intervention*

(408) 261-5890

English/Spanish/Farsi/Japanese

 

Community Psychotherapy Institute*

(408) 261-5893

Adult, family & child counseling

 

 

Get help now to stop hurting those you love before it’s too late.

 

“It’s so hard for people who haven't been abused to understand those who have. I and others, undoubtedly, often go through needless isolation and unjust mental self-condemnation for lack of support and knowledge.”